Why Your Child Holds It Together at School and Falls Apart at Home
You collect your child at the school gate. The teacher smiles and says they’ve had a lovely day. No concerns. A pleasure to have in class. Twenty minutes later you are standing in your kitchen while your child screams at you about a snack, or a sock, or nothing you can identify at all. And […]
Why we might not talk about your trauma straight away
People often arrive at therapy braced for the worst. They have decided that this is the year they finally deal with it, they have steeled themselves, and they turn up to the first session ready to tell me everything. Sometimes they do tell me everything, in one go, quite fast. And then they feel terrible […]
I don’t think what happened to me really counts
I hear some version of this in most early sessions. Sometimes it comes with an apology attached. Sometimes people say it before they have told me anything at all, as a sort of disclaimer, in case I am about to be disappointed by what they have brought. Nothing terrible actually happened. It wasn’t that bad. […]